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TIPS AND TRICKS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ASSURANCE!

September 24, 20245 min read

Hey friend! Let’s dive into confidence—that powerful, transformative energy that allows you to move through life with certainty and grace. Confidence doesn’t necessarily mean being loud or outgoing. In fact, quiet confidence can be just as powerful, if not more so, than the kind that shouts.

What Does Confidence Look Like?

Quiet confidence is about knowing your worth and not needing external validation to feel good about yourself. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone because you already believe in your abilities and trust yourself. Confident people take risks, step out of their comfort zones, and don’t seek constant approval from others.

But what about signs of low confidence? Often, people with low confidence exhibit:

  • Negative self-talk: constantly doubting or criticizing themselves.

  • Avoiding challenges: being afraid to take risks or face new experiences.

  • Seeking validation: constantly needing others’ approval to feel good about themselves.

Recognizing these signs is the first step toward building more confidence in your life!

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1. Find Your Self-Worth

Finding self-worth can be a journey, but it’s one worth taking. Start by recognizing your strengths and accomplishments. Write down things you’re proud of—whether it’s work achievements, personal growth, or even small victories. When you reflect on your successes, you begin to see yourself in a more positive light.

Loving yourself means accepting who you are, flaws and all. It’s easy to get caught up in what you think is wrong with you, but your imperfections make you unique. The key to loving yourself is acknowledging those imperfections while still seeing your value.

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2. Confidence Is Both a Skill and a Talent

Some people seem naturally confident, but for most of us, confidence is a skill that can be learned and practiced. It takes time and effort to build it up, but you can absolutely improve your confidence with practice. Here’s how to do it:

  • Dress the part: When you look good, you feel good! Dressing in a way that makes you feel confident can set the tone for your day.

  • Practice positive self-talk: Every time you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, replace them with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your worth, your talents, and your strengths.

  • Focus on your wins: Whether it’s completing a project at work, learning a new skill, or even making someone smile, remind yourself of the positives.

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3. Speak Confidently

Confidence isn’t just about how you feel—it’s also about how you present yourself. Speaking confidently can make a huge difference in how you’re perceived and, in turn, how you feel. Here’s how to project confidence when speaking:

  • Use a clear and assertive tone: Speak with intention, and avoid mumbling or using too many filler words like “um” or “uh.”

  • Make eye contact: Engaging with others through eye contact shows that you’re confident in what you’re saying.

  • Be assertive, not aggressive: There’s a big difference between speaking confidently and coming across as forceful. Assertiveness is about being sure of yourself while still being respectful of others.

4. Confidence Is Attractive

Confidence is one of the most attractive traits a person can have, and it comes in many forms. You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to exude confidence. In fact, some of the most attractive forms of confidence include:

  • Kindness and genuineness: Being authentic and kind shows a quiet, self-assured confidence.

  • Comfort in your own skin: When you’re comfortable with yourself, others are naturally drawn to you. People are attracted to those who don’t constantly seek external approval and validation.

  • Positive body language: Stand tall, keep your posture open, and maintain good eye contact. This type of body language speaks volumes about your self-assurance.

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5. Body Language Speaks Louder Than Words

Your body language can communicate confidence before you even say a word. Standing tall, maintaining eye contact, and keeping your posture open can make you look and feel more confident. Avoid crossing your arms or slouching, as these gestures can make you appear closed off or unsure.

When you project confidence through your body language, you send a message to the world—and to yourself—that you’re in control and comfortable with who you are.

6. Everyone Has Flaws: Embrace Yours

We all struggle with insecurities and moments of self-doubt. But it’s important to remember that everyone has flaws. No one is perfect, and it’s okay to acknowledge that you have imperfections. Confidence isn’t about being flawless; it’s about embracing your flaws and knowing that they don’t define your worth.

Quiet confidence, in particular, is attractive because it shows that you’re secure in who you are. You don’t need to shout your strengths or hide your weaknesses—you simply accept yourself as you are.

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7. Be Bold: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

If you want to build confidence, start by taking small steps outside of your comfort zone. It’s easy to stay where you feel safe, but true growth happens when you push yourself beyond those boundaries. Whether it’s trying something new, speaking up in a meeting, or facing a fear head-on, taking risks helps you build resilience.

The more you challenge yourself, the more your confidence will grow. You’ll begin to trust yourself more, and that trust will carry over into all areas of your life.

You got this!

Building confidence takes time, but with practice and positive self-talk, you can become more self-assured in all areas of your life. Start small, embrace your imperfections, and remember that confidence isn’t about being perfect—it’s about believing in your worth and acting on that belief every day.

You've got this, friend! With these tips, you’re well on your way to unleashing your inner confidence and living a more empowered, self-assured life. Keep practicing, stay positive, and always believe in yourself. 💪

Owner and photographer of Belle Marie Boudoir located in Minneapolis, MN empowering women one session at a time.

Olivia Smith

Owner and photographer of Belle Marie Boudoir located in Minneapolis, MN empowering women one session at a time.

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Hey there! I'm Olivia

I’m absolutely obsessed with empowering women through boudoir photography. For me, it's all about showing you how incredibly beautiful, confident, and fierce you truly are—just as you are! My studio is a space where you’ll feel celebrated, pampered, and totally you from the moment you walk in. So if you're ready to embrace your curves, feel like a total queen, and capture this amazing version of yourself, let’s start planning your dream session today so shoot me a message. I can't wait to help you see what I see—you're stunning!